2001

a pivotal year ... the start of the near generation in start of decease ... January a god father, my Dad eldest brother dies of Cancer, February an Auntie in Canada then dies. My father in law dies on Census day of cancer, that being April. Then in November with an Advent funeral my Mum's eldest sister dies of cancer. 

Three major funerals of family close. The dynamics of a larger family with an Auntie known but had not seen even seen recently at that time. She did not come over much for the family get together like some do. 

Then it was not until 2012 a series of major people close started a role call to this day... How life is for some. On my volunteer opportunity in December a person met who still had all their grandparents  and parents and not yet lost major family members in the life cycle ... 

The acknowledgment of my grasp back in a life after a deceased spouse .. the truth in not knowing that like many my age ... though those met in passing who had two predeceased husbands ... 

The variants in all walks of life only not when it comes to secretive or behind closed doors of  hoarding in its many variants  ... many in the past disclosing stories of a mastectomy or a caesarean or a baby miscarried just before it would have been in the next stage of gestation called in loss, who might not have otherwise done so when knowing my experience in these health issues are only a touch of  ... you could see Dads missing eye, at times you cannot see what is hidden behind clothing or that ... it is amazing how many have bits missing you didn't know about for years  ...